So this is the view I woke up to everyday of my childhood! Utterly stunning isn't it! Our home was a 40 acre smallholding in the Peak District where, over the years, we were lucky enough to keep a selection of pigs, cows, sheep, horses, turkeys, goats alongside the odd dog, cat, rabbit, guinea pig & hamster! My Dad worked in London and was away most of the week and my Mum ferried us kids around, looked after the animals & tried to keep 3 unruly kids in some type of order. But what has this got to do with my life now? Turns out pretty much EVERYTHING!!!
I am currently working with an incredible therapist who has set me the challenge of looking back over my life & asking myself some key questions. The point is to notice any themes that come up, differing family values, stories or attachments that shaped my beliefs & behaviour as well as the potential source (or sources) of dissonance, trauma, pain as well as joy! We are working primarily with story & myth, unearthing a version of me before the layers of learned behaviours calcified around me.
I have never worked with myth, certainly not in a therapeutic sense, however, I am a big fan of Sharon Blackie's work and have recently devoured her new book Hagitude. But it is her book 'If Women Rose Rooted' that I tend to recommend most. Stories of wild women, aged crones and selkies take me to a totally different realm in my whole being & modern life seems to slip away. It inspires me to do the deep work, to get in touch with the wild inside me & ultimately to become more impactful within my world and the world! In Sharon Blackie's words;
“To change the world, we women need first to change ourselves — and then we need to change the stories we tell about who we are."
Being brought up on the moors certainly shaped my way of being and I look back and see the wildness that surrounded me and was within me. I am looking forward to some shape shifting as a result of reconnecting with her!! In the meantime here are some of the lighter reflections I have had since I started out on this journey back in time:
Initially I asked myself; What gifts did being brought up in this environment give to me?
Thank you for indulging me in reading my story - I look forward to maybe hearing yours one day!
AUTHOR: ANNIE LEE
Annie is a coach, coach supervisor & coach adventurer! Warmth, depth & joy sum her approach up in a nutshell!